Should a Therapist Advise Divorce?

Speaking for myself, I never say never, but I cannot imagine a situation in which I would give such advice. I have helped clients find clarity in their relationships, which has led them to seek a divorce. I have also had clients come to me seeking clarity in a divorce and end up deciding to stay together. I see my job as helping my clients find the path of the greatest mental and emotional health, wherever that may lead them.

I have, on occasion, encouraged a client to seek solitude for a time. Oftentimes clients are in a situation that is verbally and emotionally volatile. I may advise them to take a solo vacation, stay with a friend or relative for a few days, etc. In situations with the potential (or actuality) for domestic violence, I have certainly encouraged clients to seek safety, which usually involves leaving the marital home. Divorce advice, however, is for attorneys to give. As I said, my job is to help the client find the healthiest path, whatever that may be.